Monday 30 May 2011

Cer Citer...Right of Wife in Islam

1. TREAT THE WIFE IN A KIND AND GOOD MANNER

Make the words you say to them good, make your deedsand behaviour toward them good, the same that you would from them.

Prophet Muhamad SAW said "The best of you is the best to his family and I am the best to my family" and "A believing man should not should not have believing woman since if he dislikes her characters, he is pleased with another"

The man should not hurt his wife with either his actions or his speech.

Prophet Muhamad SAW was asked by one of his companions "What is the rights of our wives upon us?" He replied "It is that when you eat, you feed her; when you get clothing for yourself, you get clothing for her; do not strike her face, do not swear at her and do not boycott her except in the house"

2. TEACH HER THE MATTERS OF THE RELIGION

He teaches her if she ignorant and he reminds her if she forgets.

Prophet Muhamad SAW said "Man is responsible for his family and he will be asked for his responsibility"

3. FINANCIALLY MAINTAIN THE WIFE

ALLAH said "The father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother's food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear"

However the wife must not overburden her husband. She shoudl satisfied and happy with little.

Prophet Muhamad SAW said "Look to one who has less than you and do not look at the one who has more than you as this is more likely keep you from finding faults from the blessings of ALLAH upon you"

And ALLAH said "They (your wives) are our garment, and you are a garment for them"

Cer Citer....Marriage is Simple


Islam sebenarnya memudahkan yang halal dan memyusahkan yang haram. Sekarang ini, adalah sebaliknya. Dizaman Rasullulah, adalah menjadi tanggungjawab masyarakat utuk menjaga kebajikan dan keselamatan. Maka salah satu tujuan 'poligami' adalah untuk memastikan tiada seorang wanita pun dibiarkan hidup tanpa kebajikan dan keselamatan. 

Oleh sebab itu, perkahwinan sebenarnya adalah perkara yang mudah dizaman Rasullulah. Tetapi kini, perkahwinan amat menyulitkan dengan berbagai perkara2 yang remeh temeh. Dengan hantaran dan majlis kahwin yang membebankan, maka ramailah yang masih berkahwin. 

Mungkin ramai yang menentang 'poligami' tetapi bukan mengikut syarak. Alasan yang biasa kita dengar 'kalau poligami semua nak ikut rasullulah tapi dalam hal2 lain tak mahu pula ikut'. Fikirlah sendiri.